Sophie at the beginning of her relationship is at a major crossroads. She has a real thirst to try new kinds of sex but she’s grappling with a lot of old anxieties that she brings with her. Sophie finds herself in a new life partnership with a single mother of three adolescent daughters. She’s been very honest about wanting a threesome with her former collaborator. This powerful revelation has opened up conversations about setting boundaries, finding compatibility, and the importance of healing from past traumas.
Sophie’s partner has been living a full sexually adventurous life since her own divorce a decade ago. I think she starts with a very deep mental and spiritual and physical bond with Sophie. And yet, despite their compatibility, the emotional weight of Sophie’s past makes things difficult. Sophie is sensitive to these concerns but feels that a little bit of tender communication is really what’s needed to walk through this brave new world.
In past relationships, Sophie had opened the conversation about having sexual experiences with other partners. Yet, in her present partnership, she confides on what such choices could mean.
“If we have sex with other people, I fear I’ll regret it. We have such a lovely relationship and I don’t want to taint it.” – Sophie
Sophie’s partner balancing work and family commitments is busy taking care of both a dog and a cat. They continue to foster open communication at home. Even in the private act of their lovemaking scenes, they give each other soft, intimate fantasies. This further strengthens their bond and allows them to individually discover what they want in a controlled environment.
John, a close confidant of Sophie’s and her romantic partner, observed how important their sexual compatibility was.
“This is amazing – we’re sexually compatible and I can live out my fantasies with her.” – John
On this journey Sophie and her partner Ronald, their shared interests and love for adventure will become apparent. She understands the need to tread carefully with their emotions. She is aware that her past experiences may cause panic. At the same time, she understands that she needs to be intentional about supporting her partner through all of these new feelings.
The couple’s very different cultural backgrounds further contribute to their conflict. Complicating this unique relationship volatility even further, Sophie’s partner is the father of three teenage daughters. Putting your individual wants and needs aside to tend to family responsibilities involves a lot of communication and openness from a couple.
Quite frequently, Sophie has surprised her partner in the wee hours of the night with a spontaneous romp, displaying their physical chemistry. You have to walk this spontaneous, creative, whimsical, fun nature with a sense of sensitivity. Achieving this balance ultimately makes each partner feel respected and important within the relationship.
Even with these challenges, Sophie and her partner are dedicated to creating a positive, engaging relationship as they continue living their lives. Second, they promise to uphold open communication. This commitment enables them to work through fears rooted in the deep unknown and experiment with what they want in a safe way.