Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a primal therapist and psychotherapist based in the US and an expert in sexual disorders. She’s been praised for her candid yet compassionate advice on thorny sexual problems. People have written to her asking for advice on everything from STIs to sexual identity. In particular, one case raises interesting questions about intimacy and desire within long-term intimate partnerships. A married writer, with a marriage of 12 years, arrives onto the scene with a bombshell. He admits that his wife has slept with more than 50 men in her life, and the number figure may be nearing 100. And yet, in spite of this history, the couple suffers a remarkable drop in their sexual encounters.
And ever since welcoming their first child nearly a decade ago, the couple’s sex life has all but disappeared. They’re left being sexual only once every three to four months. The author blames this drastic drop on his wife’s lower sex drive after having a child. This experience leads to a broader question of how personal sexual histories can shape current connections.
Pamela always answers one question online each week, giving valuable insight to readers who are wrestling with the same questions. Her expertise offers valuable insight into the dynamics of desire and intimacy, particularly in long-term relationships where external factors such as parenthood can impact sexual health. She brings deep expertise in this area. Her mission, as an educator, is to be a guiding light and open the door of hope to all who struggle with their sexual wellness.
The writer needs direction on ways to restore intimacy in their marriage. In the past few years, few changes have rocked their partnership. Greenhouse gas emissions output for any given year. The wife has been able to explore her sexual past, but the couple is left reeling with difficulty finding sexual connection. The disparity between her previous sexual freedom and the current state of their relationship raises important questions about compatibility and changing desires.
If you are looking for more advice on these related subjects, Pamela Stephenson Connolly would love to hear from you. Simply drop a line to private.lives@theguardian.com. Her mission is to remove the stigma around why we struggle sexually and offer real-world, practical make-it-possible solutions that fit your life.