In a recent episode of the BBC podcast “Off Menu,” co-host Ed Gamble took quite the deep dive into this fascinating idea. This idyllic time in Amish culture gives teens a chance to explore the modern world before choosing whether to fully embrace their community and religion. Specifically, he drew on ways that this practice might create a new vision for long-term partnerships in the world we live in today. This is particularly significant considering 42% of marriages in the UK end in divorce.
Rumspringa usually begins when Amish youth are 16. This tradition gives them the freedom to leave their communities and experience life outside their rigid, religious upbringing. This formative period encourages teenagers to “explore otherwise forbidden or strictly regulated behaviours,” allowing them to make informed choices about their future commitments. Gamble suggests an experiment for queer folks to try, which she calls “Long-Term Relationship Rumspringa.” This concept has the potential to be a big win for long-time married couples.
Gamble’s proposal aims to provide couples in long-term relationships with a designated time to experience single life and dating, thus reassessing their romantic commitments. He argues that this kind of approach would enable people to stay in their relationship or, if not, to come to terms with that and move on peacefully.
“The first rule of Relationship Rumspringa is that participants have to earn it.” – Ed Gamble
When Rumspringa is over, the young couples will participate in the special Rumspringa marriages ritual. This ceremony represents their return to the sacred space of their devoted partnership. This ritual could help solidify their choice, whether they decide to reunite or choose to separate. Gamble thinks the end game is obvious. Both sides need to go back home with a clear read on the state of the courtship.
In his panel presentation, Gamble emphasized the importance of giving people a chance to experience the world beyond their permanent choices. In doing so, it can help them make better choices about their relationships. He emphasized that the essence of Rumspringa—rooted in the Amish practice—could serve as a valuable model for modern couples facing uncertainty.
In that same episode, fellow podcaster James Acaster and comedian Rhys James compared notes on their most delicious, joyful meals. It was Gamble’s proposal that raised eyebrows. The theme strikes a chord with most, especially today as we all come to terms with the need to constantly assess and recommit in relationships.