In a world where relationships often fit neatly into defined categories, Jeremy stands out with his unique approach to intimacy. Jeremy Pamela An older queer person, Jeremy is openly polyamorous, and exists in a vibrant community that values radical honest communication and relationship building. At this point, the speaker emphasizes just how important their relationship with Jeremy has been. This relationship extends past traditional notions of courtship and orgasms.
Jeremy’s abstention from pornography, he says, has influenced his approach to pleasure. First off, from day one, he informed the speaker that he was polyamorous. This created such an opportunity for openness and authenticity. This openness inspires people to be candid and creative. Because of this, they are able to talk about literally anything without the fear of being shamed for it.
Their relationship has bloomed in a profound but strange way. In intensely intimate detail, the speaker narrates their days spent for hours in bed with their partner, tender kisses mutually unfolding an honest, vulnerable emotional connection between them. Even with the closeness that comes with being nude together, Jeremy was very clear about setting boundaries from the outset—namely, that they would not have penetrative sex right away. This choice was made in the interest of establishing trust and emotional attachment. It certainly wasn’t because they weren’t ready to commit.
Jeremy’s long-time partner knows that he and Jeremy meet weekly. These meetings take place on days when the partner is out. This setup serves to underline the polity of polyamory, in which many relationships exist simultaneously with consent. The speaker goes on to say that their relationship with Jeremy is truly unlike any other. Yet, in so doing, it creates a rare and profound emotional resonance that truly deepens the experience.
The reality of what they were undertaking hit them, the speaker confessed, and he was terrified, but equally exhilarated on his first trip to Jeremy’s house. Jeremy’s laid-back disposition and years of life experience helped manage the excitement and dread of this new adventure. The speaker has profound and abiding admiration for him. It is exactly this life experience that conditions how they interact in deeply profound ways. It restores the speaker’s sense of agency by making them feel seen and heard, and therefore important.
Plus, Jeremy’s view of pleasure is delightfully subversive. He does not feel that he needs to achieve an erection or orgasm to derive enjoyment from their time together. This philosophy approaches the issue by moving away from traditional ideas of sexual performance and toward a richer idea of intimacy and connection. It opens up a world of possibilities, unlocking experiences of pleasure in a deeper, more holistic sense. They can accomplish this without the constraints of conventional wisdom breathing down their necks.
It’s this emotional bond between Jeremy and the narrator that makes their friendship so unique. The speaker is messing around with several other women. None are as good as the level of intimacy and understanding they develop with Jeremy. This contrast of desire gives the audience permission to explore deeper than just the physical form, often highlighting the value of emotional intimacy.