Pamela Stephenson Connolly, a US-based psychotherapist specializing in sexual disorders, describes how she no longer became attracted to her husband after going through menopause. Transitioning into the later stages of menopause, Connolly, now 62, has been in a loving romantic partnership for eight years. She feels betrayed by her partner’s lies. She’s decided to take the sexual plunge out for various personal reasons.
Eight years ago, menopause was the more dominant feature of her existence. Connolly asserts that her current lack of interest in sexual intimacy is not indicative of any issues within the relationship. She makes sure to tell you that she has no issues with her partner. Rather, she emphasized their emotional intimacy, which far surpassed any physical intimacy.
Connolly addresses various concerns related to sexual matters in her weekly advice column, where she chooses one issue to respond to each week. We welcome your questions, queries or conundrums – please send a short description of your issue to private.lives@theguardian.com. Her wisdom serves as beautiful, practical guidance to help people build and sustain healthy relationships, especially in addressing sexual health and intimacy.
As for increasing sex drive Naturally, many women like Connolly choose to raise their hormone levels in order to help bring libido back. She emphasizes that this is a very personal decision that should be weighed thoughtfully. For others, hormone therapy is an easy and effective way to improve their sexual health during their menopause transition. Some, instead, opt for a detour.
Connolly warns against making permanent decisions in temporary relationships during this period of uncertainty and change. As a psychotherapist, she has a unique lens and understanding to these topics. Her lived experience, especially her personal journey through menopause, informs and empowers her perspective. She suggests starting with communication between partners, focusing on what you both need and want to create the best experience possible.